Michelle Khare's Ten-Day Attempt to Make the University of Kentucky Cheer Team

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Overview

Michelle Khare says she had wanted to try cheerleading since childhood but never let herself, because of the physical risk. In this episode she finally tries. After ten days of training, she enters the University of Kentucky's three-day cheer tryouts. The rule she sets for herself is simple: if she is cut at any round, the video ends there, and so does her childhood dream. She also says clearly that she has no real plans to become a college cheerleader. The point is to experience a sport she has always felt drawn to. She adds that even if she made it through every round, she would not take a spot from an actual student.

13 min read
1:22

Why Kentucky, and What Cheer Demands

Khare picked the program she calls a powerhouse. In the video, Kentucky is described as a cheerleading dynasty that has won 24 national championships in 35 years. One of her coaches puts it this way: "if you know cheerleading, you know Kentucky," the "end-all be-all of college cheerleading."

To prepare, she brought in two world silver medalists for a ten-day crash course. Their first lesson was that cheerleading is "three sports all in one":

  • Tumbling, which resembles gymnastics.
  • Dancing.
  • Something close to power lifting: bases throwing people above their heads while keeping them safe.

They also stress that all of it has to look sharp and clean and be done with a smile. Facial expressions are part of the performance, and you never show that you're "dying inside."

The first check of her level was a toe touch. She already knew the term and showed her own version, and one coach said they were impressed. Other early lessons were small and practical. Proper cheer shoes have notches that help with grip, which she found "so helpful." Some drills exist only to teach flyers how to hold positions "without killing the boy underneath them." The coaches explained that stunts happen in milliseconds, too fast to think through. That is why they rely on repetition until a skill becomes like riding a bike.

3:09

The Fight Song and the Elite Stunt

Two requirements shaped most of the training. The first was Kentucky's fight song. Khare's coaches told her it matters a great deal because the squad performs it at every game and every school event. In their view, cheer is not just skills. It is "being able to command a stadium to look at you" and get it fired up.

The second was an elite stunt, which usually includes some kind of flip. The coaches noted that most cheerleaders don't attempt elite stunts until they have at least seven years of experience. Practice was rough. The footage shows repeated corrections about where her arms should go ("reach, reach, reach… where did our arms go?") and at least one fall. Six hours before her flight to Kentucky, Khare admitted they had not perfected everything.

Her coaches named the mental side as the biggest obstacle. One said the hardest part would be "Michelle getting out of her head": she just needed to go out, have fun, and do what she had been taught for ten days. Khare framed the problem differently. Landing a skill once in practice is fine, but she would have to land it consistently, under pressure, in front of a crowd and judges. If she failed round one, she would get to do nothing else.

5:39

Coach Ryan Martin O'Connor and the Program's Standards

In Kentucky, Khare worked through the tryout weekend with Daniel Fleharty. He described her as new to skills the other athletes had been building "basically since they've been able to walk," and warned she could very well be cut if she didn't give it everything.

Head coach Ryan Martin O'Connor is introduced as a five-time state champion who won a national championship as a cheerleader at Alabama and is a three-time gold medalist. Her standards are called "the gold standard." She opened tryouts by telling athletes it would not all be fun or easy, but that being part of something meaningful requires going through that. "If you're afraid of failure, you don't deserve success," she said. Others describe her as someone who "doesn't take no for an answer."

Later, O'Connor explained the pressure she was under. Kentucky is a 24-time national champion, and the team was unsuccessful the previous year. She said it is hard to read what people say about you when they don't know you, and joked that her husband, and sometimes her mom, want to beat people up over it. Her answer: "We just got to win, and then everyone will shut up."

6:06

Making a Friend, and the Netflix "Cheer" Connection

Khare compared the start of tryouts to high school lunch, where you have to pick a table, except everyone is a cheerleader and "really, really cool." She set herself the side challenge of making a friend and asked a group if she could stretch with them.

Fleharty connected this to the sport itself. Cheerleading is all about trust, he said. He and Khare had built that bond over ten days, and now she had to build the same trust with strangers. One athlete she met, Maddie, had cheered with Fleharty at Navarro. Khare had also gone to Navarro to prepare for Kentucky.

That led to the Netflix documentary series Cheer, which featured Navarro's 14-time national championship junior college team. Fleharty said that on the show he wasn't really known as Daniel but as "Gabi's stunt partner," "the guy who threw Gabi." He credited the series with showing the athleticism of cheer: hours of dedication, "blood, sweat and tears," and multiple injuries. In his view, people tend to picture sideline or Dallas Cowboys–style cheerleaders, an "accessory to football games," when the sport is much more.

7:29

The Tryout Format

Making the team required passing three days, each testing different skills:

  1. Round one: tumbling (standing and running) and the fight song.
  2. Round two: stretch stunts.
  3. Round three: an elite stunt performed in front of a live crowd.
8:02

Day One: Tumbling, the Fight Song, and a Public Reprimand

Athletes went four at a time. Before Khare's group, O'Connor explained why the fight song carries so much weight. The squad performs it at appearances, alumni events and games, far more often than any advanced skill. Athletes have to be ambassadors for the university, not just skilled tumblers.

She then singled out candidate No. 17. She was "very disappointed" in that athlete's fight song, which "should have been freaking perfect." She sent them away to work on it with their partner and told them to come back and ask, or "beg," for another chance.

Khare wore No. 24. During her tumbling, a coach remarked, "I wish everybody smiled like she did." The fight song and extensions went well. Fleharty called the extensions "money" and said she "sprung off the floor" when he wasn't expecting it. He explained that her energy affected the room: in cheer, if you yell, the crowd yells back, and if you're quiet, they stay quiet.

Afterward, O'Connor told the whole group she was disappointed in the fight song overall. It had been on the website and in the tryout email, so anyone who wasn't ready had shown that the program "weren't worth your time." She said she evaluates life skills as well as athletic ones, including whether athletes act like college-aged adults.

12:32

The Fitness Assessment and the First Cut

Day one ended with a fitness assessment run by the team's strength coach, covering things like jumps and rep counts, before any cut was made. O'Connor said physical fitness is a huge part of what they do because "we are athletes." What she wanted to see was effort: who would take every part of tryouts seriously.

Khare said her vertical jump was "so bad." A coach responded that the assessment gives "black and white answers" on things the staff was already questioning. O'Connor said those not invited back were appreciated, but the program can't "lower the program standards to accommodate everybody." Athletes should be willing to rise to them. That night the list was posted, and No. 24 had made the cut.

14:14

Day Two: Learning a Stretch Stunt and a Full Down

Day two focused on stretch stunts: a skill showing that the flyer can pull a stretch and the base can hold it, followed by a dismount. Khare had never done one. Fleharty told her they would move fast because she was a quick learner.

The practice clips show specific corrections. On one attempt she reached for the stretch instead of breaking into it and buckled. The fix was to keep her hand at her side and slide it up her leg to her foot. Fleharty also warned about the catch: pull in close, because "the second you go elbows out, our noses are broken."

In the audition, she hit the stretch and also landed a full down, a twisting dismount. Fleharty said he had told her she didn't need to try a double down; a full down would be enough, and she learned it in one day. One judge said they were "putting hearts in my notes" for it.

15:54

The Surprise Cheer and the Weight of Day Three

O'Connor then added a twist. Athletes had 15 minutes to learn an entirely new cheer from scratch, to be performed at the next day's audition in front of hundreds of people. She tied this to adaptability. Cheerleaders don't control what happens in a basketball or football game, so they have to listen and be ready for anything. Khare made mistakes in the rehearsal, such as feet too far apart and a rushed extension, and was told to breathe and not stress. She said the volume of new information left her feeling fatigued going into the final day.

O'Connor told the group they had been on the news the night before, because this was the first open tryout in three years. There was pressure, she said, and they should be excited about it: they would get to show off in front of a crowd at Memorial. Khare made the second cut.

17:34

Day Three: The Elite Stunt in Front of a Crowd

On the final day, the arena filled. Fleharty said this was where Khare would feel the real pressure, and the result would depend on how she compared with the other athletes. O'Connor told the finalists she was proud of them and admitted she was emotional herself: "the little girl in me that grew up here" was humbled and overwhelmed to be there.

Khare's elite stunt began with a front handspring into the stunt, and she said they could not get it consistent. Fleharty's corrections were concrete. She needed to keep squeezing when he grabbed her, because when she stopped, he couldn't throw through and she "flopped over." He also told her to keep shooting back out of the handstand, because stopping there would collapse her arms. She said she wasn't confident and called it "a really dangerous thing to do."

In front of the crowd, she performed the routine, including a tumbling sequence that surprised the coaches. One reacted, "she learned that in three days?" Fleharty said she kept doing things without telling him and he was "just as surprised as everybody else." The front handspring entry into the pull stretch was the hardest part, and they hit it. Afterward, Khare said they had only landed it about three times before. A coach acknowledged it "wasn't the best," but Fleharty "still stayed up there."

Khare described the moment as "a big exhale." She said she expected to look bad and probably did, but felt a huge release at having done it and learned so much. Fleharty told her the crowd, the team, he himself and the coaches all loved her, and thanked her for choosing Kentucky.

24:14

The Verdict

The coaches announced the Blue Squad, the top squad that every athlete hoped to make, followed by the White Squad, by tryout number. No. 24 was not called. O'Connor then brought Khare forward and said she had really impressed them. She said the team could learn a lot from Khare's confidence, and that her performance scores were closer than the staff expected going in.

The deciding factor was skill, especially tumbling. O'Connor said it is hard to learn to flip your body if you haven't been doing it, and that the squad does a standing tuck in its fight song, including in the fourth quarter and in cold-weather warm-ups. "I just don't think that we're there yet," she said, and told Khare she would not be part of the team.

Khare accepted the decision easily, saying she would leave it to the professionals. She said she had known she wouldn't make the team. What overwhelmed her was having fulfilled a childhood dream. She wasn't skilled enough to pass all three days, but she did get to feel part of the team, even if only briefly.